Sunday, September 18, 2011

Step Ten

Ironically, reading a blog post today over at I Love Recovery (a great blog by another recovering woman) was the smack upside my head that I needed to remind myself that I haven't been working a daily tenth step for the last while. For those of you who haven't a clue what a tenth step is, it is:

We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

This is kind of the "keep your house clean" step. (Come to think of it, I haven't been keeping my real house very clean either.) Oh well, perhaps this reminder will give me the nudge I need to check in with myself on a more regular basis. It can't hurt. Especially since I found myself falling back into some crappy behaviour today. 

So here are the questions that I developed for my own Step Ten inventory, with today's answers:

Have I reaffirmed my faith in a loving, caring Higher Power today?
Not in any seriously tangible way, to be honest.

Have I sought out the guidance of my Higher Power today? How?
Nope, didn't manage to do this either.

What have I done to be of service to the people around me?
Shared with and listened to a friend who is going through a difficult time. 

What do I have to be grateful for today?

Everything, as usual.

Have any of my character defects been apparent in my life today? If so, which ones?
  • Fear, lack of faith (no)
  • Resentment (oh, yes indeed)
  • Arrogance (um, yes to this one too)
  • Self-doubt (no, too busy being arrogant)
  • Lack of discipline (well, the frozen yogurt was sugar-free)
  • Lack of self-awareness (good on this one, I knew my resentments were coming out)
Did I incorporate any of the following principles in my life (in place of any active defects)?
  • Faith, trust (yes, I caught myself being a resentful snag and stopped, I know I can do better)
  • Acceptance (I accept that going on and on in resentment is not attractive or healthy)
  • Compassion (I have compassion for myself, and try to be compassionate for the person I resent)
  • Humility (I am still learning, and know I have plenty more to learn. That is humility.)
  • Self-love (Maybe tomorrow)
  • Commitment (I'm working this darned step, aren't I?)
  • Open-mindedness (I am open to change and to changing, today)
Do I owe any apologies or amends?
I apologized to my friend for taking the conversation where I did (a resentful rant on my part, not against her).

What have I done today about which I feel positive? Satisfied? What did I do today that I want to be sure to repeat?

I did manage to stop myself when I turned into a snarl-puss. That would be a good thing to repeat. 

How did I practice self-care today?
  • Prayer (um, no)
  • Meditation (um, nope)
  • Right amount of working/busy-ness (yes, no working or busy-ness today)
  • Mindful eating (pretty much, not positive if I needed the sugar-free frozen yogurt)
  • Exercise and stretching (went for a fabulous walk)
  • Mindful spending (I gave the girls the money for the frozen yogurt, otherwise spend-free day)
  • Rest (I slept in until 8:00 am)
  • Sleep (I am going to bed now, and it is only 9:30)
So there we have it. I`m not entirely proud of how I handled myself today. But I`ll do better tomorrow. 

I hope.


  1. I like the self-care list, Dawn. I'll have to adopt it. I'm guilty of NOT doing a lot of these things and it's starting to catch up with me. Thank you (as always) for the beautiful entry and reminder.

  2. Thank, Cynthia. I'm really getting better at self-care, but it's a bit of a chore!